Beware Of Bad Trendsetters

We, as people live in a society,  we can’t help but feel the pressure from society. Societal pressure also deals with the microscopic details of our lives. We notice our  loved ones trying to dress a certain way or demanding for a specific device. They want what everybody else has. The idea of dressing a certain way or a demand for a certain object wasn’t from their imagination, it is something they picked up TV or from someone at school and that now becomes a defining thing for them like ‘ THE WAY TO DRESS’ or ‘THE GADGET TO HAVE’. Little kids now wanting to have a phone, right? Why do you need a phone? My friends have, why cant I?As we grow older, societal pressure take different forms. You see your co-worker at the office parking lot driving a nicer car than you and you go like ‘Man, I need to get ahead. Look at what these guys are driving’. What do we gain by comparing us with other? This is societal pressure, whether it is in form of dressing, or where you put your money or in career.
Our parents are also victims of societal pressure, ‘ Our neighbor is a doctor, you better be one’. The interest of the child goes unnoticed. At times we believe that it make life simple. All it does is make life hard. We all seen wedding at our places, lavish, over the top, unnecessary expenses. Well, your cousin had a big fat wedding, you must too. A simple nikah at the masjid? No way, we have to show face in society in the long run. What will people say? Credit card debt goes unnoticed by all.
What we must do is… Get in shape for your kids. Not for yourself, for your kids. Play with them. You need to be better friend to them than anyone else. Because wallahi this society offers lots of evil friends. It does. And before they make those kinds of friends, they need to find their best friend in you. It’s not the way we did things back home; back home, you weren’t friends with your dad. Your dad came home & you sat straight. Your dad spoke & you stood up & responded. There was a relationship of respect and it was a distant relationship. You don’t chill with your dad, right? You don’t do that. Here you have to do that; you have to do that. Not just you should, you have to.
For the Muslims out there:
 Allah just wants to lighten your burden. Allah wants to take the load off of you; that’s what the deen is supposed to be & you’ll find people that are enslaved to their culture, they are enslaved to their societal pressure; when they talk about Islam, they say Islam is tough, Islam is too strict, that’s exactly what these people say; the Islam is too strict & what’s funny is, if they followed even small principles of the deen, their lives would be a lot easier.
When Allah talks about these trend followers, He did mention that here’s a trend we should follow. Follow the way of Ibraheem and you know what that way of Ibraheem is, right? He didn’t follow anybody else. Everybody is worshiping idols. I'm not. He’s gonna go the way that Allah wants them to go. That’s the trend to follow.
 May Allah make us understand His book the way it should be understood. May Allah protect our children from falling into the tide of cultural forces & pressures. May Allah make us of those who understand His book, love His book & implement His book in our lives. May Allah open the doors of its wisdom & the wisdom of the Sunnah of His messenger (SAW) to all of us.

(This is a summary of a Lecture By Nouman Ali Khan which I could relate a lot to and hopefully you too)

Spark Embedded Deep In Us

Life is a wonderful thing. Yet another year, we're here , alive and kicking, with every heart beat and oxygen we breathe in,  a spark in us, left to be lighted that can cause fireworks. There is no trouble without a way out. Life is like a puzzle whose key and panacea we've yet to acquire. The hope that one day life will be problem free,  with  perfect bed hair, flawless skin, no hustle to pick an outfit, no disease to combat, loved ones assuring their love and loyalty, laughter and peace in the air.  This can happen any day, you don't need to be put off for the perfect time. Create and discover that perfect time, moment, and place. Not by changing yourself for the worst but for the best. We need to remodify, restyle, refashion, reshape and remould ourselves to be quintessential in every manner. 

At the end it does not matter how many paychecks you obtain but it does matter how much you relinquish, spread your love and forever stay as a frolicsome spirit.

                                                              STAY HAPPY :D

This year, 2014, I've seen a lot of ups and downs like after every storm comes a rainbow. There was indeed a lot of sad and happy moments for each one of us. Some very unexpected and dreadful events that are impossible to overlook. Something blue, I created and is now my very own stress reliever. 2014 is also my graduation year. I can't even believe how 2014 has gone by, so smoothly yet with so much blow. Writing this blog, boosted my confidence and made me believe that ' it is ok to be me'.
Now that my High School is over. My life has taken a new turn. For better or for worse, in sickness or health, I will be me, no matter what. I believe there are millions to bring you down, but you are the only one responsible to pull yourself down. So 2015, here I come..

To envisage how the year has blew is next to impossible. When you lose someone, its all that you want back because it is then you realize how much that person mattered to you. Taking two different directions and ending in circumstances where you need your 'significant other' in other words ' your bestie', but life has done us apart. What we didn't realize it, then was that, this was a smaller version of how it was going to be in the future. What we did was, a little bit of catching up in each other's lives and promising to be there in important stages in our lives. It was then I perceived the truth that, there can be no one to replace her, she was meant to be my best friend. I love you MY NANU..
Like typical besties, we even have are very own code words and inside meanings.
Personal Question Please, nanu?

Along this journey of my life, I came in contact with a girl of my age. Like an ordinary teenager just like me, going through her teen years, she was too facing issues of her own. She had major issues of accepting who she really is. She is not aware of how beautiful she really is, both inside and out. With an extraordinary personality, rare to find and an amazing head full of ideas and plots. You have a drama or a skit to be done, then she's your girl. She is a good friend of mine with secrets and high school gossips shared, I am going to miss you laulau.

With happy moments stored and sad moments forgotten, I bid you farewell, 2014...

Debate- How strict and authoritative parents pave the way to a child's bright future..

A throwback to the debate competition I participated.

Goodmorning Dear Sisters, Teachers and Friends.

I, Fanar Mohamed, stands against the notion 'strict and authoritative parents pave the way towards a bright future'.

Call off the rescue! You can't protect your kid from every hard knock life hands out!

Parents get too overprotective and this overwhelms the child to step out of the comfort zone and face the real world laid out for them.
Parents might be looking out for you , from the experience they gained over the years, but its child's battle to fight and to survive. We are a kid to every obstacle we face, curiosity has us chained even when we know the result.
When you ask a four year old , not to do something..
They do not obey... If you reason out with him, curiosity strikes him and he ends up doing...you have no blame game to play here. A mistake that he did is a lesson he gained for a lifetime. We are the same. We need to do to do our mistakes. We are not robots. We are merely human beings. Humans make mistakes . And the smartest of all, learns from those mistakes. Those mistakes might lead us to success. We can always aim for the moon even if it lands on the stars. Risks make us stronger emotionally and physically.
Parents need to learn, once and for all, life can be tough either way, you help us or not.

Liberal parents make a child, independent and prepares them to face the evil world, awaiting them.

Thank you ♥

STAY HAPPY :D

II : A Penny For My Thoughts.

The pain engraved in your heart can either break you or make you. Use it as a motive to fuel your

way to success. It's there for a reason. 

- Mohammed Zeyara

With every day that passes by. You realise who will be there and who won't..

The very *so called friends* , you considered your entire life, are those very ones, that stab you with a sharp blade, over and over again, you do nothing but accept who they really are even if your heart is now in pieces...
Why write all this, Fanar?
Time is money, money is precious, only an idiot wastes precious time and of course, we all are pretty selfish, I will not even try sugar coating them. To listen to someone, even if he/she was about to die, you wouldn't listen to them unless the matter is concerning you. Writing gives me a platform to vent out many bottled up, messed up emotions. It helps me clear out and I turn void of thoughts, allowing new thoughts to flow in. Like a train of thoughts revolving in my mind. One after the other. Just like a fizzy drink or a soda, it turns into a clear liquid when you pull off the lid, helping all those gases gain their freedom. Its just what writing does to me, only it gets better!

I hope you guys can sink your teeth in to what I'm saying... Don't bite too much..
Life is all about improving yourselves. Not just genetically, but morally and spiritually.

And With who are you trying to play your sick, twisted games with?

Do not laugh at someone's misery, Karma will find you and bite you. Not too much I hope. Also do not judge a person without knowing what situation he/she was forced into. You do not know what he/she's going through. So stop it! Sadly I learned this the harder way.

Calling her a *insert a foul name here* , Is it? Who ever gave you the right to? What should I call you , a bully? Or A big fat bully.

Stop trying to act like a flock of sheep. Try acting different once in a while. Or try being the shepherd. A better choice isn't it?
A person who supports a crime or criminal is a criminal himself.

I remind myself all of this a million times, before you.

Thank you

Stay Happy :D

#12.   Be the change, you want to see in the world.